PaintedDiary

Dear Ms Jacquii, Ms Stardust and Sarah,

Thank you all soooo much for reading and commenting on this. This is an important topic and Ms Stardust I applaud ALL that you do and will continue to spread the word! Ms Jacquii the HCL would have been one of my solutions definitely! Sarah...yes...that is exactly the effect I was going for and I wanted to experiment with doing a story-poem. The one-word taken off each time did indeed reflect what she was think and going through. It is very very sad.
This story-poem was derived from the stories I heard about a woman in my neighborhood. From what I understand, she did in fact get help and etc., but was extremely weak in spirit, so she would always go back She moved and he found her and being scared, she let him manipulate her into moving back. Again from what was told to me, when she moved, she moved into shelters and never told that her husband was an abuser because he took such great care of the kids, and the home financially. The mother did not work.

She did not think enough of the kids and her safety to get away and stay away. In fact, she loved this man sooo much that she thought that one day...maybe he would change. People say this monster was an excellent father to the kids, though he expressed that he hated the kids to his buddies at his favorite bar. Also from what I understand, he never abused the kids and people say it appeared that he could take the title of "father of the year", every year.

Another part of the story is that she kept it quiet, did not tell her parents, his parents, or any family that abuse was going on. I was also told afterwards, that she did not want anyone to know, and that made it easy for him to continue the abuse along with the fact that he did not leave many bruises physically. He would slap her, stomp her face, choke her, throw her in the home, and etc. being conscience and careful not to leave evidence, for people to question, keeping his horrid reputation up.

I asked someone who was friends with the family, why didn't the grandparents, shelter or friends call services on this monster, since obviously there was something going on regardless of his perfect image. No one seemed to know that answer. So so so sad. Truly a disgrace to humanity as Ms Jacquii has stated.

Last I heard, the kids, the boy who is 9 and the girl who is 10 are living with the mother's parents in another state, and he was arrested based on the letter she left behind, and other things. I was told she felt that she could only tell the truth in letter form after she took her life because she was afraid he would kill her anyway, she loved him regardless of what anyone said, did not want to be alive when they came to get him, and in her mind she felt she was doing the right thing. Oh my goodness.

One never really knows what goes on in the minds of some of these woman. Thank you all for your commentary.

Kim