Mysty

Gail........... we give birth because we want them...... we teach them best as we can.... and then when the time comes .. we let them go. With luck we did a good job and it reflects in visits and them living a good life. I do have to say though.... What is with some of todays Youth?? wanting something for nothing and respecting no one or their property?

Yes the love remains ... and one hopes they realize that the love they received and still receive is unconditional. This is a solid write hon.... Kids do need to realize.. though we love them...... we cannot be walked all over.

Anyways it is bedtime for me hon... I gotta go before I wax poetic. G'night and Hugs.


Mysty

butchiesmom

I'm blushing! Thank you, Tree! I knew you would understand. There are lots of people who wouldn't understand why I had to tell her to stay away.

Thanks, my friend, for reading this and commenting on it too, I do appreciate it.

hugs,
Gail

crazymamma5

i am so proud of gail last friday she had to tell her daughter to stay away after a phone call she got trying to cause problems from her daughter. with the only response from her daughter being whatever. but gail told me that she thought she would feel bad about it ,but instead felt relief.way to go gail!!!!
love ya,
racheul

PaintedDiary

Hope things are going well Gail...{{{{}}}

Kim

butchiesmom

Things are going much better. It's been over a week since the last spasm. Racheul noticed that I'm doing much better since I asked my daughter to stay away. It wasn't easy to do but it was the right thing to do for now. Whether my daughter ever speaks to me again, I'm not sure, but am sure that had she kept calling it wouldn't have been good for my health.

I've been going over the plotline for Eilia and have been working on it since around 12:30 am until now. I'm not finished but have solidified a few things which I couldn't get straight before, if that makes any sense, lol.

Thanks for asking and for caring considering how much you have going on in your own life!

lubya Sis!
Gail

stardust

Dear Gail:
I have been reading your essay, and it impresses me so much. I did not know about the whole situation. It is true, when it comes to overcome stressful plights that take our energy away from us, so it´s so difficult to deal with things like that. I am sorry to hear about your daughter. I hope, things are getting better by now, sweet Gail. I really enjoy reading your essay. I am so sorry for not posting my comments before. But, I´ve been so busy with my dear auntie, who is 96 years old, very ill in Hospital after 2 surgeries. Perhaps, she won´t make it, because she is really weak and ill at this point. I feel so sad for her, and I keep on praying for her. Well, it is always great for me to read your writings, Gail. I´ll be coming and visiting the Forums more often, as soon as I solve my own personal troubles. Thank you, dear Gail, for sharing your talents with us!!
God bless you, and all your loved ones!!
(((Hugs))) Cordially, Starry.

butchiesmom

Thanks, Starry, for taking the time to find and read this essay. It took me several weeks before I made that call. I really thought it would devastate me to tell my daughter to stay away from me, but I actually felt relief! I hadn't realized just how much stress she caused me.

I know that sooner or later we will have to address the problem. It might have to wait until my 33 year old daughter matures a bit. Perhaps she realize WHY she was asked to stay away, but I'm not holding my breath.

I'll keep you and your aunt in my thoughts, Starry. My 97 year old step-grandmother passed away from heart failure, a couple of years ago, the day we left for vacation. My mother was with her, crocheting. She said Emma was there when she looked down at her crocheting, when Mom looked back up Emma was gone.

I didn't have long to get to know her, long story, but Emma loved to hear my writing. I miss her still and remember her with fond thoughts. It will be a sad time, but we'll be here for you.

hugs,
Gail

SarahNSH

Wow, Gail, I actually come from a rather negative thinking family myself... my Mom has the saying of, "Expect the worst because if something better happens then that's just a bonus" or something like that. I think that you handled this really well and got your point across to the person that you're writing too... especially with the point that you aren't in the best of health and stress is just making you worse and you need to take care of yourself to get better. I especially think that you're ending says it all, saying that you need to have respect even though you love them.

I think that this explains a lot and that you made it quite clear what is your situation and, for me,I believe this clearly states what you want them to do and why and that you love them, but you just can't do this anymore. And I really do hope that you can take care of yourself and not have to have this kind of stress. I've lived with some pretty bad stress myself and can have my health fail just from the stress alone. So, if you already have a situation where your health is compromised it's definitely important to avoid stress and take the best care of yourself.

I agree with Kim and I don't think you should change a thing either, it reads really well to me and definitely gets the point across.